Lakeside Contemplation.

Tonight's lakeside contemplation...

I love the diversity of backgrounds my friends come from, but right now I am so tired of my Facebook feed basically being article after article of mudslinging. If we all stopped focusing on three people, whom will most likely never even know our names much less what our lives are like - how we make a living, who our friends are, what our goals and dreams are, where we go to church, where our favorite local burger joint is, which beach we end up on to clear our minds, etc. and simply focused on each other I truly think we'd be better off! Be a great family member, neighbor, volunteer, write your senator/congressman, help invoke policies that directly relate to what you dream and desire to see changed! Clinton, Trump, and Johnson aren't going to be there for you when times get tough in your personal life - don't push away those that will.

Good Friday +Recipe ("Crack"er Toffee)

Last weekend we drove up to Fredericksburg, VA to meet with friends living in Maryland as well as friends from Portland that flew in to spend a week with the Maryland friends, followed by a week with us. It was so much fun getting together again - it had been 2yrs since we had all lived in the same place (Hawaii) and we have added 3 more kids to the group! Easter will be our first major holiday here in Virginia that we don't have travel plans or family coming to town for. It made me a bit sad thinking about our time in Hawaii because we were such a close knit group always making sure everyone was included in holiday potlucks, etc. considering we were all thousands of miles away from family in the middle of the Pacific Ocean...

Anyway, today is Good Friday and for us that means remembering the sacrifice of our Savior Jesus Christ. We may not be truly settled into a church or have that amazing group of Friends, but the knowledge of what Jesus did for us on that Cross is enough! Christ gave it all so we may have it all in heaven. It's Friday, but Sunday is coming!

Photo credit: Verses Project

I recently made some Cracker Toffee also known as "Dessert Crack" (bad name, I know!) since once you have a piece you won't want to stop eating it, it's SO addicting! This particular batch was Easter/spring themed, but I've made it for Christmas and I'm pretty sure you could make it for absolutely any occasion by changing the type of chocolate and toppings. If you're still looking for a dessert to bring to your Easter potluck, this is quick and simple!

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"Crack"er Toffee

• Approx 50 Saltine Crackers
• 1 cup butter (2 sticks)
• 1 cup packed brown sugar
• 2 cups dark chocolate chips (or any type of chocolate you prefer)
• M&Ms for topping (I've used slivered almonds as well)

1) Preheat oven to 325*
2) Line a baking pan (mine is 17.25x11.5x1in) with foil and grease
3) Arrange saltines on pan
4) Place butter and brown sugar in a small sauce pan over medium heat
5) Once the butter melts completely, bring to a boil and stir constantly for 2min until nice and bubbly
6) Pour mixture onto the saltines, spread it quickly with a spoon/spatula
7) Place in oven for 8min
8) Remove from oven and immediately sprinkle the chocolate chips on top
9) Allow chips to sit for a minute then spread them evenly over the toffee layer
10) Sprinkle M&Ms
11) Sit on counter until cool (you can pop in the freezer for 10min but I don't recommend more unless you plan to store these in the fridge because the chocolate will sweat/melt)
12) Once completely cool and set, peel off foil and break into chunks
13) Will keep in an airtight container on the counter for 1wk (2wks in the fridge), but I doubt it will last that long!
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HAPPY EASTER!!!
-Tay

Ohana.

For those of you who have never left home (I'm talking more than those 4yrs of college or moving a town away) I don't really know how to explain this accurately but I will do my best.

Moving somewhere completely new changes you in ways you can never understand. Moving to an island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean thousands of miles away from anyone you know adds a whole new element. My time in Maryland was short all of 16mo, we did find a church and a group of friends to "do life" with, most of which we keep in touch with today. But Hawaii is where our life really became "our own."

Within 3 months of moving there I started having debilitating panic attacks - to the point of throwing up, jolting awake, and having to go to the ER twice within 2wks. We were desperate for answers, desperate for a place to call home (been in an hotel room for 60 days and ended up in a temporary apartment for 3mo before renting our home on base), and desperate for a place to fit in.

We tried a few churches, but once we walked into Hope Chapel Kaneohe Bay (now Anchor Church) we knew we were "home." I started attending a women's study and we planned to join a married group once my husband returned from his upcoming deployment. The women in my small group got me through my anxiety issues, supported me during the deployment, and some became very close friends that I talk to daily/weekly even now!

Once my husband returned we jumped into a young married's group and the rest is history... Weekend get togethers, impromptu dinner nights, beach & boat trips, hikes, holiday parties & potlucks, rallying around those who moved/were sick/had kids/etc. These people were our Ohana, we knew if we needed something all we had to do was call. Even if our car broke down on the other side of the island, someone would show up! Thousands of miles away from home and we still had that safety net. There's just something about that island. That life. That time. I will never forget those moments or people.

I need to find that here. 

Reaching Out

I hate being the "new girl" but inevitably I am every few years. New state, new city, new base, new roads, sometimes a new language, and always... always... new faces. 

Before we got married, I remember packing - well cramming - everything I owned into my Mazda 3 and making the grueling drive across the country with my dad. It was great for us, we bonded, stayed in crappy hotels, saw amazing things, and even went up inside the St. Louis Arch. The trip didn't change me, the day my dad left did. I was alone... my soon-to-be husband was at work, and I wasn't in Arizona anymore!

We flew back to get married but afterwards it was the same old story. Lucky enough for me one of my husband's friends and co-workers had a great wife! She invited me over, we went out to lunch, she let me get us completely lost then pointed me in the right direction, she went to the commissary with me for the first time, and we bonded really well. Later they threw a BBQ and there I was introduced to a bunch of the other Marine wives... now everyone didn't welcome me with "open arms" to say, but eventually I became good friends with most of them, which is quite a feat with a group of women, can I get an "amen?" Haha!

About 5mo into my time in Maryland a new wife from my husband's company arrived, she actually moved in one street away from me. I went over to say hello and from there I became the girl who invited her over, took her out to lunch, etc. She was also pregnant and when I found out she hadn't had a baby shower... that just wouldn't do, so I opened my home, planned the whole thing, and threw her a shower.

The majority of us have now left Maryland... Some (like myself) have already PCS'd again!  We are now in Pennsylvania, Wisconsin, Texas, and Virginia... but we'll never forget each other and the things that were done for us. From my second duty station I have friends back in Maryland, New York, California, North Carolina, Florida, Oregon, Colorado, Hawaii, Germany, Japan, and England (probably a few more I'm forgetting)! 

I tell you all of this to say- reach out! Don't let the "new girl" mope around in her house, be alone, and have to learn everything all by herself. Honestly, who wants or should have to do that? 

Obviously you won't stay in touch with everyone you meet. My super close friends are actually from our time in Hawaii rather than Maryland... but I am so thankful for my learning experience there. So please reach out, because who knows, your next best friend or deployment sister could be waiting!

-Tay

Guest Post: "The Not So Brilliant Start."

Hey everyone!

Today I have a special treat for you, my friend Danielle is talking about goals! If you remember, I posted my 2016 goals just prior to the new year, I love seeing other perspectives and encouragement when it comes to them! Danielle and I met six years ago in Maryland through our small group at church, since then we have stayed in-touch and even had the opportunity to live near each other for a brief period once again in Hawaii. I can't believe she has 3 kiddos now, when we met she and her husband had just recently gotten married, I love this crazy life of mine.

Now she is super woman: going to school, taking care of said kiddos, and running her own business Legacy Creative Co. which focuses on helping small business owners and busy women utilize their time as efficiently as possible! If you own a small business or are struggling to figure out what career field you should be in contact her for some advice!

I hope you enjoy what she has to say!

Feel free to comment with any questions for her,
-Tay

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I am currently sitting in my car waiting for my college class to start. Not just any college class, but Calculus. In a condensed 3-week, 3-hour-a-day form. Am I crazy? Maybe. Am I scared? Oh yes! Am I driven? Yes!

I have goals for 2016, and this is one. The goal of continuing my college education.

What I was not planning on was my sudden desire to study accounting. I am not a math brain in any way! This goal scares me. Which is probably good because that usually means there is divine intervention taking place.

What about you? 
I know it's the beginning of January, right after New Year's Eve and a lot of people make resolutions.
What are yours? 
...Have you broken them?
...Do you feel like you've failed?

Do you know what? 
I don't make resolutions. 
I make intentional goals!

For me, when I set out with intention to do something, I make progress! One of my favorite quotes is by Lara Casey. She says "progress, not perfection." When I set a goal. I break that into pieces I can achieve. For instance, one goal for this year is to work towards my bachelors degree in Accounting.

I have broken that down into:

• Taking one class at a time. 
• Meeting with my adviser to make sure I am taking the right class at the right time. 

These are measured, tangible goals. On the side, I am looking at what certificates I need to become a certified accountant.


If you are like me, you have probably already been working towards a goal. How are you handling that? What if I told you to sit back, grab a cup of sweet tea or coffee, and think about what little steps you can take to make progress? I think you would enjoy the journey!

I love talking about goals and dreams! This year, I am going to take baby steps towards my new goal of my degree. Will I fail? Gosh, I really hope not! Nevertheless, even if I do, I am taking a step forward. I am gaining knowledge that I can carry with me into the next time I take Calculus.

Now your goal might be more complex, or more simple, but it is yours - claim it! Speak life into it by starting today! Failing would be to have a dream and do nothing. For those of you who are not working toward your dream, start today! There is nothing magical about making a resolution right on January 1. Dreaming is scary, but you can do it! I am scared of Accounting, there are a lot of numbers! I, however, do not want to regret what could have been.

~Danielle

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Edenton North Carolina

One of our really good friends is about to deploy and his wife will be headed home for the holidays so we wanted to make sure we got to see them before they both left! Living a state apart doesn't make it incredibly easy, but definitely easier than multiple states/across the country!

We picked a day. Google mapped the "middle" and found a town nearby that offered golfing for the guys and shopping/historic sites for us girls. That my friends is how we ended up choosing "the South's prettiest small town," according to their website. 

We kept little man's morning schedule as close to normal as possible, but it was moved up one hour. We got up, cuddled/played, ate breakfast, changed clothes, and got in the truck. We packed a change of clothes and shoes for all of us along with sweaters in case the weather got funky. Husband and I had our hydroflasks (love them!) and baby his nuby bottle, along with a bag of adult road trip snacks (beef jerky, granola bars, nuts, and Annie's bunnies) and baby snacks. We set up his "command center" with binky attached for easy access, a swaddle for comfort, a couple books, and his current stuffies of choice Panda & Honu. Away we went!

We met at the golf course and the boys checked in for their tee time while us girls took to Facebook (because where else do you get up-to-date event info?) to find events taking place in the area. We ended up at a craft show at the American Legion, even being one of the first 50 to arrive, earning us a "swag bag," haha! We each purchased an adorable handmade nativity scene to put up next month. Then we headed over to the local farmers market where we bought mini pumpkin bread loaves and chatted it up with the locals. 

Once we ran out of "events" we headed to the town Visitor's center which is actually in the Historic Barker House (built in 1782) right on the Edenton Bay. We sat on the porch for a bit, learned about their Tea Party (happened after Boston's), and got the info for the lighthouse tour. We decided to wait for the guys and do the tour together, so we walked Broad Street (basically their Main Street), and ended up popping into the Edenton Coffee House for some chai tea freezes and turkey panini's. After refueling we walked through all the cute shops before we found the Veterans Memorial, pretty cool considering it was the weekend prior to Veterans Day. We received the phone call from the guys that they were done golfing and headed to the visitor's center so we started our walk back.

Once we met the guys in the parking lot it started pouring, the kind of rain that comes in heavy sheets! So we ran into the visitors center so the guys could check it out and we could buy Christmas ornaments. My husband and I, as well as our friends, purchase an ornament from all the places we travel together. Our Christmas tree is basically the story of our travels! We took more photos on the porch, talked about the future, goofed off with the baby, and the rain finally slowed down enough for us to change shoes and head to the lighthouse.

The Roanoke Lighthouse sits directly on Edenton Bay, it was originally in the middle of the Roanoke River and Lightkeepers completed 3mo rotations. The house had a living room, kitchen/small dining area, and two bedrooms, along with a wrap-around porch. Not too shabby if you don't mind being in the middle of a river! It wasn't a spectacular tour, but our guide was funny and gave us dinner recommendations. Plus it was only $3.50/per... After the tour we walked around the Cupola House and Gardens before heading to Waterman's for dinner.

Once dinner ended we said our "goodbyes" but are already looking forward to getting together next year! I gave my friend a "deployment survival kit" with specific orders not open it until after he leaves... My way of being there with her even though I physically can't. That first week is always rough so I hope the items I included can help with the transition just a bit... Maybe I'll do a post on that later... Since my husband drove there, we prepped baby then it was my turn to drive. It was a whirlwind day, but totally great. If our friends are willing to meet us halfway, I don't see us saying "no," because true friendships are always worth making the trip!

Have you ever done a day trip to visit friends?

-Tay